Do you have a serious fear of the future haunting you? Do you keep protecting yourself from this future?
We’re living in a world of uncertainty where many things can make us afraid.
You worry that you’re not good enough, that you’ll fail. The truth is you wouldn’t be human if you didn’t.
Yes we all once in an awhile, worry about what the future holds. Fear of not knowing if something good or bad will happen to us in the near future can produce lots of fear and anxiety.
You envisage possibilities of unemployment, poverty, sickness, chronic pain, to losing a partner or child. Growing old in neglectful care homes, or being alone and seriously ill.
Most people are filled with at least one serious fear. The kind that fills them with anxiety or terror.
It is a major reason for people failing to open up to the turning points and new beginnings that their heart and soul are calling for.
By accepting and succumbing to the fear, you allow it permission to run your life. Fear can be dangerous: it can make you do irrational things.
It sets your whole body into the kind of fight-flight reaction. Which might be useful if a lion was threatening you, but not in your everyday life.
Simply put, some reason, probably to do with the past, you believe that if such and such happens, you will not be able to cope. You may think that you are fearful of losing something you cannot do without.
Sometimes you believe these fears are protecting you, keeping you alert to a real problem that you need to solve. While this is true of moderate fears, as fear is natural, letting it stop you from going after your dreams- now, that’s a tragedy.
All the security in the world is not enough. You can never be so totally in control of life that you never suffer any major loss and failure.
Most times the crippling fear of the future is not really about the future, even also it’s not about the event that you are afraid of. It most usually stems from the past, and it is about your picture of that future, or rather of yourself in that future, and not about the future itself.
This fear about the future as you imagine it can be solved in your imagination, where it started.
The truth is that you can overcome these fears, and not only that, you also unlock a door to a more peaceful, creative, and constructive life.
It might take a little work, but it is well within your ability to do so.
To do so, you need to learn how to change your picture of the future so that you see yourself as vibrant, strong, and resilient in that situation that right now you fear.
And when you do, you give yourself a chance for a real turning point. And an opening into a new way of seeing yourself and life that will become your real security.
The only constant in life is that it will involve change; and try as you may control the future, sometimes all you can do is trust that whatever happens, you can adapt and make the best of it.
When you’re able to overcome this fear of not being good enough, this fear of failure and rejection, and put me out there in the world, you will succeed. You’ll find out that you are good enough.
You just have to first acknowledge your fear. Write it down if possible, ask yourself what worst thing that could happen, celebrate your every success!